How to Manage Time | Deepavali 2018

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Cravings

"I was reading Richard Bach's book.There was a sentence in his book where he mentioned that,even as a pilot,flying a plane thousands of feet  above, experiencing all that adrenaline rush,the most fulfilling emotion he achieved was when someone rotates their plane's wings replying and mimicking his plane's gesture as a sign of greeting each other while flying,"I told him.
"Success in anything without fulfillment is a failure right?Wish I have more time to spend with my family next year ,"he sighed.

"The common thing between us human,a donkey or a bird is time and breath.This 24hours is a limited perception for us,lifes on earth.Out from here, it's not applicable."
"Why?"he asked looking at me.
"A day in Venus is 5,832 hours.A day in Mars is 25 hour.That watch won't be useful anymore if you move out from Earth,"I said pointing at his watch on his left wrist while he was listening quietly.
 "You can't actually save time.You can only spend it.When you feel that you dont have time,it means you're using this moment for something else.Manage it while you can."
He nodded briefly and look at his watch.
"While we're talking, each ticking second brings us a moment closer to our grave.Gather as much life as you can while your body is still capable of it."

How to touch someone without love 🤔?So it's not my cup of tea.

Such a sweet,egoless friend she was.

Malaysian influence in Hyderabad.

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Preparing niece into a rockstar.

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Even clash of clans gt us connected.

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Main Cause of Cancer |Placebo and Nocebo Effect |Stress

"You asked me if there's really a cure for cancer and before I say something you answered everything yourself ."
"No I read it on Facebook that day,"he said.
"No I read it on Facebook that day,"he said. "Cancer isn't like a flu where when a single bacteria or virus attacks you today and 18hours later you get sick. It's not solely gene.50% woman with BRAC1 gene never get cancer.Gene is an associate factor.You need some other stimulus in huge amount to cause your cells to become haywire,"I explained and continued,"Information from Fb and WhatsApp isn't always true.Some are fake ,some are old and some are just bullshit.Search that topic on Google and you will know if it's real or fake." "Apart from food, retail, telecommunication, oil and gas, pharmaceutical is one of the worlds leading industry.Sometime I wonder if they have some sort of influence on medical text books.Statin helps less than than 3% and causes side effects about 23%. Means 3% people getting benefits while 23% getting toxic.About 300,000 people dying because of such side effect and people go on war agains drugs which kills only 30,000 people annually."
 "Then how about placebo and nocebo effect?"he questioned.
 "See,both are presumably psychogenic, but they can induce measurable changes in the body.How can we conclude which one is north and south when we're standing outward on a land in Malaysia.If you use your sense, there's only outward and inward right?We use a compass to determine north and south but how can you sure that Antarctica is southernmost continent? It's just dark out there.While we are standing here,people in London is standing upside down from our perspective. What you believe as placebo and what someone believes as nocebo is the same.Both of you're believing something that you don't really understand ,same as the question,does God really exist.Medicine never really cure you, it's your hope.So why dont you pick an optimistic belief.Read this book,Man's Search for Meaning and you will understand the power of hope."
 "So what are the stimulus that triggers cancer?Food, chemical, environment?"he asked his last doubt.

I just smiled."It's your prolong stress, your cortisol which is suppressing your immune is the main culprit. Stop looking outward for cause and solution.Look inwards."

When You Feel Like Ending Your Life,Read This

"Can I talk to you for a second?"
That's what the dm sounds.Such private messages and mails from strangers isn't uncommon.
15 minutes later I replied,"Yes,is there anything ?"
"Are you busy?"she asked.
I don't usually ask for their info and waste my time.Being busy is a commonly misused word by human.No human is ever super busy,we might preoccupied with something and we always have time for something important.
She was expressing her emotional turmoil regarding her job, relationship betrayal, financial downturn and common human problems.
"I don't have the strength to continue this life.I just can't make it another day.The amount of humiliation and embarrassment is overwhelming."
"If you don't mind,tell me about it,"I replied.
When she finished,"Your experiences seems better then mine.Looks like I'm the one that should end my life first,"I joked in a serious manner. "Why,what happened?"she seemed curious about me.
Not today,will write about it a day.You can read it on my blog.That blog is what got us connected after all was my reply.

Few hours later she replied and she's back to square one with her suicidal thoughts.
"Girl, listen.For me,that particular moment where you're alone,late at night,with unbearable burden in your mind and soul,it takes lot of courage to undergo that situation.It's hard and definitely not easy.I'm not gona say show that courage with life or any bs like that.It's your life.Your decision.In life,I realized you're your best teacher.When you realize that,you wouldn't seek anyone's soothing words for comfort."

 "What should I do now?"she asked.
Such question clearly showed that she just need a little push.For many, such little push determine whether they will fly or fall. "Go find an ant and look at it for a moment.Then take that guy on our hand."
"Seriously?"she replied.
"Yes.When you try to hold that ant,he will try his level best to survive.That little ant that don't even have a pair of lungs values his life that much unlike humans,"I replied.
"Ants don't have lungs?"she was curious. "No,they dont.Without lungs, ants can't drown, although they might appear to be dead in the water but when we saw that,we assumed ants are dying.The same happens with people around us.We see someone smiling,living a nice life and we assume they're happier than us.Problems are common aspect of everyone's life.Life doesn't spare anyone.The problems that you're facing doesn't make you special girl.Don't think God or humans will come and help you.I'm sure even God have  their own problems."

"Why human have to suffer so much?"she sighed.

"It's humans own preference I guess. We have 3 time zones and we're trapped between two.Thats the problem I felt,"I said.

"Can you explain?"
"We humans are suffering  emotionally most of the time.Those thoughts are what actually shaping our reality.Either we stuck with the past memories or future assumptive imagination.We already started to suffer today for things that going to happen two days later.
"Hmm,sounds true.Resembling my problems and what's the third zone"?she asked.

"It's not only your problem.Its an universal problem.Memories are  important.Don't try to erase it or else you will repeat the same mistake again.Just learn your lessons and turn it into your wisdom.And remember, imagination is different, visualization is different,wondering is different.Get to know how they're differ and use them accordingly for your growth;not as a tool of torturing youself. The last one that we ignore most of the time is now, present.The day feels long only for miserable people.When you're sad,time stretches.Have you ever experience how a good day ends so fast?

"Yes!"
"Haha,so next time when someone bless you for a long life, don't buy it,"I teased.

"Let say I started to live in present,what else to do to make my life seems more colourful?"she questioned.

"Let me ask you this and from this you figure out your way on your term.Let say you mix a coffee for your friend.How would you feel when she spit it back into the glass and claiming it taste like shit.?Would you ever mix a drink for him or her again.?"

"No.."
"That's just a two minutes work but when your action never touch someone's life,you don't enjoy doing it.Be it your job, action of whatever it is, human activities become meaningful only if it touches another life.If you could create an impact through your knowledge,your job or just simply from ur existence ,it gives a blissful sensation.

"Thank you for your words.I feel better now,"she replied.
"This is just temporary.Such suicidal thoughts might come back when the feel good emotions fades.When it reappears,I want you to do 2 things?"

"What's that? Message you?"
"No,I won't reply for the second time.I already gave you everything that you need.You came looking for a fish and I taught you fishing.When such thoughts visit you again,tell yourself this.You wana end your life,as I said, it's your life.No one can control you but promise me this.If you ever want to end your life,you should do it only when you're continuously happy for 3 days.Then book a domestic flight at night on a full moon day.Get a window seat.When you're 40,000ft above ,closest to the universe above,look at the sky.The next day, you end your life if you want."

That 4 days experience will make you realize how beautiful is your life on Earth.

Sri Lankan Food,PM,Tamara's Ipoh | #metoo

"Most of the shops are using banana leafs and here they're using lotus leaf?"I was curious.
"That's their speciality.Try this Sri Lankan brinjal moju,"my sister passed the dish.
"Nice.This reminds me of the Sri Lankan food that I ate back in hostel.Their food always taste different,unlike Indian food.Infact,it's much delicious,"I shared my thoughts.
"Did you saw who is their new PM?"she asked and continued "He has been accused by diplomats of serious human rights abuses in the war against rebel,one of Asia's longest-running conflicts that ended during his tenure as president and more than 100,000 people were killed in the 26-year war and yet..,"she stopped.
"Do you think it will continue?"
"I doubt it and even if something happen it won't prolong I guess.Today's social media game is way too strong,"I told her.
"Like the me too stuff?"she questioned.
"Yes.Sort of.Do you think men suddenly became so liberal towards women and allowed them to speak up?"I asked.
"Then?"she questioned.
"Man are always known for destroying and killing anything that is less powerful than them.They could wipe out the entire woman race with their masculinity but due to their need,they spare them.When the biological needs enter into the psychological mind, that's when  essential need became unnecessary perversion,root of many problem.Today a girl can voice out and bring attention to her discrimination solely due to evolution of technology.Nothing else."
"Other than using technology which clearly never produce much desirable justice,do you think there is a better way?
"Wait till Elon build a mecha ."
"Mecha, what's that?"
"Giant fighting and flying human-shaped robot with a pilot onboard.A robot that swings a sword that you can drive it back from work late at night,"I teased but deep inside I know that it's impossible to touch a girl that I see as my people,be it my own sister or a stranger.

Effect of Moon Cycle

"What's wrong?"I questioned looking at her sulking face. "Number 2 problem,"she said. "Born with a moon sign and being a Pisces is the worst thing ever happened to me,"she sighed.

I smiled.This girl had the same problem as me I thought,the only difference is such predicament created by people's words isn't effective for me any more despite my birth date remains the same on 20th Feb .

 "Basically your problem is moon and that 2 fish in your zodiac sign literally means u always have duality in your thoughts right?"

"Sort of,even my friends condemn it often"she expressed her feelings. "Without duality and moon ,we wouldn't exist.Come here,look at the sky,"I  pointed at the full moon .
She was just looking without saying anything.
 "How do you feel today?"
"Like shit!They said during full moon our mood should be good right?"she questioned doubtfully.

I looked at her."About 4 5 years ago,I was walking back from hospital at 4am from ortho ot.The hospital building was old back then with the yellow bulbs along the corridor.That chill breeze and the full moon still fresh in my eyes and I remembered hearing weird sounds from psychiatric room.Full moon and new moon have some influence in our life,but it's not as you assumed.It won't make you happy just like that.I realized ,on that day,it hyped our mood.If you're happy,you become more happy.Same goes to sadness.And..,"

 "And what?"she was impatient. "If you're crazy,you become more crazy,"I laughed.
 "That's sounds sceptical,"she exclaimed.
"While studying O&G,I realized the number of moon and menstrual cycle is the same. A synchronous relationship between the menstrual cycle and lunar rhythm was confirmed by few studies as well,"I explained.
"What does that mean?"she questioned. "Among  826 female volunteers ,the 6-hydroxymelatonin have significant correlation.Most female menstruate around the new moon and ovulate around the full moon.It a complex thing to explain but there is a spiritual theory that once the moon moves far away from the earth,women can't reproduce anymore."
"End of civilization?Is it true?"
"Moon is being pushed away from Earth 4 cm per year is a fact,so let's wait and see,"I teased.
"Being a doctor do you believe in all this,energy from moon and etc?"
"That thing up there raising tides in earth's oceans monthly,tons and gallons of water and we humans are made up of  78% of water,an important elements from the 5 basic element of life and what makes you feel it doesn't make a difference in you?"I questioned.