21st May 2019.
The moment I opened my eyes,I checked the time on my watch.
1145a.m.
Later than usual but it's fine, yesterday's midnight show wasn't that terrible after all.
Routines- Apple cider, exercise, meditate, affirmation,few minutes with instrument and some positive videos.Was watching TedTalk and it made me wondered.
I saw my niece.She sleep,she wake up,eat,watch cartoons for hours,run here,play there,shit and sleep.The the next day, the same routine continues.
Everyday it's almost the same, just at times there will be some variation but it's the same pattern.
You,me,the entire world is facing the same aren't we?
Just that some people's life is more saturated with dramas, emotion stirring events,be it good or bad.
That experience is the reason why two person can never experienced life as the same.The joy,the fun the sadness,the struggle,it can never ever be the same.
Local holidays and oversea's holiday aren't the same experience.
Struggling childhood,and a happy childhood creates different future.Kids from third world country and kids from developing countries leads a different life.
When someone says you never know what I faced, decorating their small pain as if as devastating tantrums,I quietly observe their dramatic presentation.
That's not wrong but exaggerating is our mind trying to create the best screenplay.With time,even the originality of the event changes because the mind remember what it remembered.
What does it mean?
It means,human mind doesn't goes 20 years back to recall that childhood moment.It goes to the last moment when you recalled them.If you recall that memory 6 months 8 days ago, that's where it went.
So what's this entire life is about?
This compounding, collective accumulation of moment leads us into different stages of life. Initially we are carefree and then we started to study.
Then?
We started to learn.Some learn how to learn,while the rest go with the unproductive flow. We use education to attain a job.That ensure us food and shelter.
This entire cycle is about moments.
MEMORIES.
We human, insects, snake's, elephant,moon, asteroid are made from the same elements of periodic table.
Same dough,but different shapes and form.
Some can talk, some have tail,some can breath in water and land, some are poisonous,some are venomous. Such a marvelous creation.Same material but the creativity is infinite.
Maybe this entire life is about creating and collecting memories.
I tried to recall my childhood . I was a little fortunate because my childhood is super dramatic.It's not lame and boring as my niece.For years I thought I was cursed but today I learnt that, that's the blessing.
I can recall things that happened when I was 2 and half, 3 ,4 years but the mid period,8 years old to 15 years;not that much.
Secondary school moment and med school memories are fresh as well, thanks to my exs.
I realized, rather than that laughing,joy moments,things that make us experience the moment intensely,sad, excited, thrilling and challenging lasted freshly and longer in our mind then the rest.
Years from now,how would it feels if I created such exciting experiences around people around me.
Maybe when I recall them back,it would be more fun,maybe the lessons and relationship that I made along the way would make people to remember my name for 100 years after my demise.
Hence I wondered, what's the role of happiness then?How to be happy?How to attain and sustain it?
I realized,these questions itself is a trap.
Happiness is like money.
For some they know how to earn it,for some they know how to save it and for some they know how to spend it,but to be the master of all 3,only the 1% of population could do that.Even if you does,your 100dollar bill that you owns today might be someone's elses tomorrow.
Happiness isn't a stagnant feelings.
It comes and goes.
Why?
Environment? Circumstances? Hormones? Food ?The parameter goes on.
I had the question in me for years.How to be happy?
Maybe my question was wrong all these years..
How can I be happy?
Maybe I'm not allowing myself.Maybe you don't know you can create them.If it's a feeling,then it's a perception , right?
If it's a perception, it's kinda an emotion.I applied First principles thinking and digged deep down.
If it's an emotion, it's mainly a mind stuff.
I realized this when I thought about the slum kids.They have nothing,pants with a hole,poor skin condition,dirty yes,they are dirty,many health issues but they never bother about them and played happily..Why?
Maybe because they're kids and they aren't exposed to the reality yet.
Then I came across poor rickshaw pullers,those roadside beggars that happily laughing,having good times with their pals.
I had money in my pocket, smartphone,good clothes, medical student,in simple word, I'm living a life 50 times ,perhaps 100 times better then them,but I didn't smile, miserable .I thought I'm the only one but once when I turned and looked at my friend,he was in a state no different than me.
What's the secret? What's wrong?
Then one day,I sat to complete my surgery case histories that I have to submit tomorrow.10 all together.Each case would be 6 7 pages.I knew it gona be a bad evening.
I started with a single sentence.
I thought let's write them in a beautiful handwriting.
Time to time I felt,the writing was good and nice for a lazy male.
Page after page and I don't feel irritated as if I achieve the flow.
Once in awhile when my fingers ached,I stopped and I look back.The entire handwriting seems impressive for me.I was happy and I don't know why and how this sudden shift happened.
I realized something that day,
When we create something that challenges us and we witness the progress and take a moment to appreciate the effort,It felt extremely good .
Create +challenge yourself
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-Observe the progress
-Take a moment to appreciate the effort
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=Ended up loving the process. Everything that you hate seems likeable.
That's when I realized, happiness and good time is created.Not externally but internally, first in your mind.
When problems are seen as a challenge and we try to figure out a solution with our own creative terms,it feels different than the feeling that we felt when we dwell with the problem feeling hopeless and overwhelmed.
What happens if I could apply this formula and a sense of knowing that it's all about creating the best experience even during toughest day.
Heart aching problem
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Plan a creative way to solve it.That problem it self is a
challenging situation.
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-Observe the small progress.
-Take a moment to appreciate the effort, evaluate what's working and what's not .
Realize that a week from now this shall pass and you going to create an experience that you will excited recalling back.
20 years from now, it will be a good story to share with your grandkids.
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What would we feel?
Trying to solve it self is a different vibe,the emotion of solving and dwelling and crying is different.The energy and the mindset is different.
Happiness and living is a mind thing.There is where we should look into if we want to be happy but to tackle more chronic life problems,it can never be solve in few steps or method.
Like building a car,the base,body, engine,the battery ,oil,painting everything is a different element brought together for a perfect conditioning car.
We humans are more sophisticated machines and we too needs few other methods along with this.
What's the next method?
Luv this,tq for sharing
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